An intuitive list interwoven with Buddhist wisdom-

1) Know it is the highest act of love and consciousness you do for yourself and others.

“being able to forgive ourselves is necessary for self-acceptance, which is important for developing loving-kindness. It doesn’t matter which comes first, forgiveness, self-acceptance, or loving-kindness, because they are all interrelated and necessary to the process of waking up.” – Josho Pat Phelan in a lecture about loving-kindness.

2) Pray for support and guidance in it.

3) Look to the Earth- see how it is always seeped in forgiveness. Sit with nature and see yourself absorbing it’s forgiveness and energy.

“The Pali word for forgiveness-khama-also means “the earth.” A mind like the earth is non-reactive and unperturbed. When you forgive me for harming you, you decide not to retaliate, to seek no revenge.” – Thanissaro Bhikkhu, Buddhist Monk.

5) Recognize our own and other’s mistakes-

“In practice, we try to nurture awareness for all of our experience, including recognizing when we make a mistake because when we don’t, it’s likely that we’ll repeat it, and because recognizing what we’ve done indicates that we are connected with what we are doing.”

4) Do not delay in guilt-

“But at the same time, if we are going to stay in the present moment, there isn’t enough space or time to get involved in feeling guilty, and the self-rejection that comes with guilt is not useful in practice. Through guilt, we direct aversion and hatred toward ourselves.

Guilt tends to make what we did, that we regret, seem more permanent than it is, by making the “me” who did it more solid.

Guilt magnifies our regrettable actions, making them larger, or a larger part of our identity than they were initially, and it actually keeps us in a self-centered state.

Guilt keeps us fastened to the past, diminishing the present.

Instead, we want to recognize our actions for what they are, but without dwelling on them. By letting go or emptying ourselves, moment after moment, we are free to meet the present. This is a way to reinforce our intention and effort to practice rather than dwelling on our lapses which actually strengthen self criticism and self-rejection, both of which are hindrances to practice.”

5) Do not circle in unmeaningful reconciliation-

“In the context of practice, forgiveness is something we do primarily for ourselves, it’s something that lightens and frees our own state of mind. And although I think forgiveness has a wider effect which goes beyond ourselves; in forgiveness we primarily work with our own state of mind and in this context, forgiveness does not mean reconciliation.”